Are Policing For The Universe?

Only love is real. Nothing else actually exists. If a person behaves unlovingly, then that means that, regardless of their negativity – anger or whatever – their behavior was derived from fear and doesn’t actually exist. They’re hallucinating. You forgive them, then, because there’s nothing to forgive. Forgiveness is a discernment between what is real and what is not.

– Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love 

I know that is kind of hard to wrap your mind around. At least is was for me. I had to stop for a moment and really let it soak in. It can be especially hard to swallow if you’re still incredibly angry or irritated at the person or situation.

How can we just forgive someone when they’ve done what they’ve done? How can we just let them off the hook like that? How will they learn the error of their ways if our anger isn’t there to teach them a lesson?

But God doesn’t need us to police the universe. Shaking our finger at someone doesn’t help them change. If anything, our perception of someone’s guilt only keeps them stuck in it.

– Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

Choosing to treat someone with compassion and forgiveness is choosing love. It’s choosing ourselves. It’s choosing God and choosing a bigger-picture way of living. It becomes less about being write and teaching lessons and more about experiencing peace and sharing love.

Relationships are reborn as we let go of perceptions of our Brothers past. By letting go of the past we make room for Miracles.

-Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

Forgiveness is just as much about allowing and helping others heal as it is about healing ourselves. When we refuse to forgive someone we are sharing and experiencing the same and equal unforgiveness energy.

Some Journaling Questions for Your Healing

  • Who in your life have you been unwilling to forgive?
  • Specifically what judgements have you been making about this person?
  • What are your reasons for choosing not to forgive?
  • How might this energy of unforgiveness be invading your life?
  • Are you willing to begin replacing your feelings of unforgiveness with love?

If your answer to the last question was ‘yes’ there are several things you can do to begin healing.

  1. Take on the affirmation and attitude, “I am angry at _________ right now, but I am willing not to be.”
  2. Join myself and an incredible group of women for my upcoming online course, Relationship Love.

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