The Divorce

Almost 6 months ago my best friend and her husband got divorced.

We both got married around the same time in 2011, although her and her husband had been together, off and on for about 10 years prior to their marriage.

Becoming wives right along side each other showed me that marriage is no one thing.

Each marriage is different. It feels different, it functions different, it offers different qualities and walks down individual paths.

For a large part of my life I never knew if I wanted to be married or have children. Now that I am here, lead by a slew of miracles, I have found that I am flourishing in ways I never knew possible.

Thriving, even.

Watching my friend and her husband struggle the way they did was difficult to watch. It was difficult to be a part of. In some ways, as a couple, they were the foundation of what I had come to know as my life here in Ennis, Texas.

I’m the kind of lady who likes to see all sides of the story. I try to be as impartial as possible. There are many truths in any one story. (I’ve been told by my friends it can be annoying at times.)

I wanted so badly to have a magic wand to wave over them and end both of their suffering. And in a way, over time, all of our prayers for clarity acted as a wand.

The divorce.

Society is constantly telling us what is right and what is wrong. Our families pressure their beliefs on and sometimes our friends try and fit us into their box.

But the reality of this life is that no one truth is “right” for every person. And if we find ourselves saying “I’m doing this because it’s what I should be doing”, well, chances are it’s not where we really want to be.

All struggles have their lessons. And even though the path to my BFF’s divorce was a difficult one, but it was also an amazing miracle.

For I have never seen a woman so alive and so beautiful. And I have never been so proud of someone for walking through the ring of fire with such grace and elegance.

To my pink haired, BFF – you are a shining star and I am so grateful that our paths have crossed in this lifetime.